tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30221706684550396082024-02-20T18:54:58.042-08:00Dixon Communication Skills ClassTorben Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04898308267210987998noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022170668455039608.post-12051129159925371052008-04-06T22:33:00.000-07:002008-04-06T22:34:35.100-07:00Master My Stories<span style="font-weight: bold;">Lesson outline:</span><br /><br />Emotion is a large factor in our everyday discussions. Once you've created your emotions you have 2 options-<br />1. act on them<br />2. be acted on by them<br />Meaning you can be in control or have them control you.<br /><br />Path to Action<br />See/ Tell a Story Feel Act<br />Hear<br /><br />Retrace your path:<br />1. Stop what you're doing. Why are you doing it?<br />2. ACT- Notice behavior. Am I in some form of silence or violence?<br />3. Feel- Get in touch with your feelings. What emotions are making me act this way<br />4. Tell a Story- Analyze the situation. What story is creating these emotions?<br />5. See/Hear- Get back to the facts. What evidence do I have to support this story?<br /><br />3 Stories People often tell themselves<br />1. Victim- "It's not my fault."<br />We are the innocent sufferers, others are bad and wrong.<br /><br />2. Villain- "It's all your fault."<br />We tell others how bad they are. Exaggerate that were not at fault. Make others feel guilty.<br /><br />3. Helpless Stories--"there's nothing else I can do."<br />We are powerless to do anything else.Torben Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04898308267210987998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022170668455039608.post-73423702521868729312008-04-03T16:26:00.001-07:002008-04-03T16:26:53.994-07:00The Speaker-Listener Technique<div style="text-align: center;">Hello everybody! Please excuse the delay. Below is a refresher on the speaker-listener technique (Please practice this throughout the week):<br /></div><br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;">THE FLOOR*<br />Speaker/Listener Technique<br /><br />Rules for the Speaker:<br />1. Speak for yourself. Don’t mind-read!<br />2. Keep statements brief. Don’t go on and<br />on.<br />3. Stop to let the Listener paraphrase.<br /><br />Rules for the Listener:<br />1. Paraphrase what you hear.<br />2. Focus on the Speaker’s message.<br />Don’t rebut.<br /></div>Torben Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04898308267210987998noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022170668455039608.post-32564515229685132502008-04-03T16:24:00.000-07:002008-04-03T16:25:03.492-07:00Some other points from lesson one<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://bp3.blogger.com/_Z7pfF2c8bDQ/RzkQEVCv9sI/AAAAAAAAAxw/Ru2b5rjdHUo/s1600-h/communication+hole.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 234px; height: 234px;" src="http://bp3.blogger.com/_Z7pfF2c8bDQ/RzkQEVCv9sI/AAAAAAAAAxw/Ru2b5rjdHUo/s320/communication+hole.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_" border="0" /></a>Some beginning guidelines for communication:<br /><br />We cannot NOT communicate<br /><br />All forms of communication depend on open and receptive listening<br /><br />Our own biases can close our mind and plug our ears to new musical experiences<br /><br />The same thing can happen when we listen to words. Most of us are selective listeners, hearing only those words that support our personal interests and views<br /><br />We hit a sort of MUTE BUTTON that keeps us closed and unreceptive to new learning opportunities<br /><br />Listeners must be OPEN and RECEPTIVE --- slow to hit the mute button --- in order to understand and learn from what they hear<br /><br />This kind of listening is an act of genuine RESPECT and CARING for other human beingsTorben Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04898308267210987998noreply@blogger.com0